tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post9052181145026226127..comments2022-02-16T22:40:02.914-06:00Comments on Mogul In Training: Will My Lifestyle Cause Issues in the Romance Department?Young Mogulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14812365042219697126noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-30437694024791608932010-07-29T10:46:16.121-05:002010-07-29T10:46:16.121-05:00I think knowing someone's financial status (as...I think knowing someone's financial status (as in debt) is very important when starting a relationship but there is always room for maturity when it comes to finances. When my husband and I first met, I was wild with money and he very stringent. We have actually come together, meeting in the middle (or now maybe post fashion rehab I am more frugal!) and now I am the one that manages our money365 Fashion Rehabhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08437782721627095496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-56107135165696634882010-07-24T20:58:36.620-05:002010-07-24T20:58:36.620-05:00I am very lucky in that my husband has always hate...I am very lucky in that my husband has always hated debt as much as I have. Neither one of us are compulsive spenders and we have the same goals. We did discuss money before marriage also, but I know some do not.Everyday Tipshttp://everydaytipsandthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-79274825134671409002010-07-24T08:00:18.752-05:002010-07-24T08:00:18.752-05:00Great feedback...you all have definitely given me ...Great feedback...you all have definitely given me information to ponder.Young Mogulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14812365042219697126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-31460503548271873372010-07-24T06:59:16.607-05:002010-07-24T06:59:16.607-05:00My husband and I were very well matched as to our ...My husband and I were very well matched as to our financial and simplicity views. It was a second marriage for both of us, and neither came into the relationship with debt, or a huge bent towards consumerism. Money is something we simply never fought over. My only regret is that he basically took care of all day-to-day financial matters, although we made major decisions together. After he passed Betty Johttp://joywithless.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-1076568828676632702010-07-24T00:43:49.699-05:002010-07-24T00:43:49.699-05:00I am getting to the point where I wonder if I will...I am getting to the point where I wonder if I will end up being alone as a result of my minimalist/frugal ways. While I would have no issues compromising on certain points most of the guys I meet are materialistic spendthrifts with more junk than brains!<br /><br />Perhaps one day I will meet someone who has a healthy balance of materialism/frugalism that I am comfortable entering into a Annienygmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11040462668571940686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-79949629549870311202010-07-21T13:13:56.981-05:002010-07-21T13:13:56.981-05:00To answer your questions to married folks, my husb...To answer your questions to married folks, my husband and I were both spenders mostly on big houses and new expensive vehicles. We both made decisions to down size and get out of debt. I found Dave Ramsey online and brought it to him and he agreed whole heartedly. I tend to be a little more of the nerd (spreadsheets and planning) but his desire to not owe anyone is pretty strong. So we went on Goose and Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07897481985424600588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-50424623104532228132010-07-20T21:09:37.768-05:002010-07-20T21:09:37.768-05:00Like other values - honesty, integrity and compass...Like other values - honesty, integrity and compassion - valuing money is not different. If both people are not on the same page, things can get tricky when it comes to big decisions - since almost all decisions involve money. <br /><br />Having said that, though I believe that both people need to value money equally, it doesn't mean that they will agree on all purchases or how to spend all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-10781472526727162192010-07-20T20:25:17.506-05:002010-07-20T20:25:17.506-05:00I think what you are saying is very true. When it...I think what you are saying is very true. When it comes down to it, the majority of people end up with financial problems because of poor impulse control and irresponsibility...is that the kind of person you want to rely on to support you and your kids?<br />So many divorce cases (and Judge Judy cases too) revolve around one person (usually the female) bailing out the other person (usually but Cash Only Livinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658816214856647685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-12104426067941206982010-07-20T07:41:16.230-05:002010-07-20T07:41:16.230-05:00I have had a few fights with guys that I wasn'...I have had a few fights with guys that I wasn't even dating about finances. One guy thought it was be funny to tell me he leased a corvet, I was horrified then relieved when he told me he was joking, but he knew how serious I was about debt. <br /><br />I do believe people come before money, but if i am going to be with someone I need to know where they stand financial and we need to be on Divine and Debt Freehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05123713875537080154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-35121833688542503052010-07-19T22:13:22.238-05:002010-07-19T22:13:22.238-05:00I wrote in the guest post I did at welivesimply th...I wrote in the guest post I did at welivesimply that we were fortunate that both my husband and I came from families who taught us about saving money. He was better at it than I was for many years. But then I got interested in decluttering and that led me to read finance/saving/frugality books and then I was the one who was more frugal!<br /><br />I would say that if you're already married, Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02912030095491960175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-89203826840380925152010-07-19T17:54:42.702-05:002010-07-19T17:54:42.702-05:00I'd give you advice on romance, but given the ...I'd give you advice on romance, but given the title of my blog, probably not worth a whole lot. <br /><br />However, judging from the couples I know, and let me tell you, that is everyone around me. People are first, but if you can't agree on how to live or at least how to compromise on money, lifestyle, and raising kids, it will not go well. <br /><br />I have many reasons I am singleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-2301182186915659342010-07-19T14:28:02.506-05:002010-07-19T14:28:02.506-05:00I think it's really important to at least be i...I think it's really important to at least be in the same chapter if not exactly on the same page.<br /><br />My Ex and I fought about money all the time. It's one of the reasons we broke up. The end finally came when he drained the joint checking account (which was supposed to be for shared expenses like food, rent, utilities etc.) to buy beer for a party. I had to take money out of my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-10420819293607325582010-07-19T12:57:15.090-05:002010-07-19T12:57:15.090-05:00I've actually seen a person call in to Suze Or...I've actually seen a person call in to Suze Orman and ask if he should leave his gf because he didn't like her FICO score. I'm serious.<br /><br />I'm not married but Rambo and I have been together for four years and it's only a matter of time before we actually take the plunge. Although he proposed to me when we were much younger, we haven't really been in any rush. Plus,Serendipityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05982927577330305194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-121808186510160023.post-8563997784437722132010-07-19T11:07:14.280-05:002010-07-19T11:07:14.280-05:00I also must admit that I am also sometimes guilty ...I also must admit that I am also sometimes guilty of judging (mentally, not verbally) people for, what I consider, harmful/wasteful financial decisions. <br /><br />Me too. In fact I do it verbally to my wife about others. She grounds me though and tells me our plan is not for everyone. But like you said major fight in relationship is money. Make sure they are on the same boat as you in Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11351627195366917504noreply@blogger.com